Facing Your GMCs

Goal, Motivation, and Conflict

As writers, we are taught to identify our character’s goals, why they want what they want and why they can’t get it.  It is one of the first things we are told we must do in order to make our story believable and our characters likeable.  Sometimes we know our character’s GMC better than we know our own.

Why do we give our characters more attention than we do ourselves?

I know some people cringe at goal setting while others love it.  It’s like the New Year’s Resolutions that we tend to set but can’t keep.  Sometimes I only set goals in my head because I know what I need to do and when it needs to get done.  However there are time when those goals are very overwhelming until I finally write them down—getting them on paper and out of my head.

I believe writing down goals is important!  I believe it helps keep us focused!  I also believe there is a motivation and a conflict behind every goal.  I want to set up an exercise program because I would like to look and feel better, though I don’t have enough time or energy and when I finally do, something unexpected comes up.  I want to write 1000 pages a day because I can get a 100K novel done in 100 days but I can’t because by the time I get home from work I am tired and my brain is fuzzy.

These are all average reasons and all goals will have some sort of conflict.  But that conflict is usually self inflicted.  Yep, that’s what I believe.  See, I could get up two hours early, in fact I have, but I’m usually too tired (didn’t go to bed early enough!) or something else needs to be done.  This is when you have to set priorities.

I also believe in routine.  Most times, that routine will get out of whack because there is always something at war with your goals.  Internally, maybe even spiritually, who knows?  But we DO have the power because we ARE 100% responsible.  Maybe we aren’t responsible for the fact our dishwasher went out and now we have to wash all the dishes by hand or our tire went flat or our tooth needed a root canal and the money we wanted to spend on something else had to be spend to save a tooth.  However, we are 100% responsible for how we react to our situations.

Did you make resolutions for the new year?  Are you already falling behind?  What can you do to pick yourself up again?  Remember, never never ever feel bad about where you are right now but always realize you can do better.


Life is a Dance

Life is a dance

Love is an art

Self is a journey

That comes from the heart.


My Favorite Movie of 2011: Crazy Stupid Love

What I loved about it:

It’s about a guy who is comfortable in his relationship and doesn’t question anything until his wife tells him she wants a divorce and, worse, she’s cheated on him. While at a bar where he drowns his sorrow, he meets a smooth talker, a charmer who can get any woman to go home with him. And let’s face it, women, he’s sexy. Jacob teaches Cal how to hone in his charm, so to speak, and before we know it, he’s a lady’s man himself who can teach the next poor and depressed guy at the bar a thing or two. It’s funny, a little twisted, cute, and has a happy-ever-after I can’t ignore.

What I hated about it: Absolutely nothing! I could watch it over and over again.

Did I have predictions for the movie?

SPOILER ALERT!

I kept telling my husband that Hannah was Cal’s daughter, but he disagreed. Kept saying, no, no, I don’t think she’s his daughter because of… Of course I was happy to find out I was right! That made the story even more emotionally appealing as Cal dealt with his emotions in knowing so much about Jacob, feeling such a bond with Jacob, only to have everything turn on him again) and have Jacob interested in his daughter. In his opinion and in his experience, Jacob was definitely not the man for his daughter! Anyone with children—or without—could understand that. And then, since his family is hating him and loving Jacob, he deals with those issues.

Safe to watch with kids at home? No.


Love and Romance

I love love.  I believe in love.  I love watching people fall in love and fight falling in love.  The first kiss.  The first fight.  That’s what I love most about romance novels and movies.

Yep, I’m a romantic at heart.  I believe there’s someone out there for everyone, I just believe that the majority of people don’t see it, run from it because of their own fears, or they place their happiness too much on love without bothering to realize they are the ones in charge of their life, if not their love.

I’m one of the lucky ones, I suppose.  I fell in love when I was sixteen years old and seventeen years later, I’m still in love with that man.  I say it’s because my mom prayed so hard for me before she died and the love of my life is the answer to her prayers.  That doesn’t mean we haven’t had and don’t still have our problems.  We do have our problems, but we work through them.

Because of my seventeen years of marital bliss, I love to give relationship advice.  I have so much pride and can be stubborn as all get out, and that has led to many problems in the past and will probably continue to lead to problems.  But I’ve also learned that just because I give in doesn’t mean I relinquish control.  It shouldn’t be about control.  It’s about respect.  I’ve talked to so many people who feel that if they give up control, they seem whipped.  (Yep, men especially).  It’s about respect.  100 percent, both ways.  It’s not about giving 50/50 but 100/100.

I believe the quality of a relationship will always outweigh the quantity.  The best piece of advice I can give is to accept your spouse as he or she is.  Support him.  Don’t depend on him for your happiness.  And more than anything, appreciate each other. 

Yep, I’m a romantic at heart, but my romance doesn’t consist of chocolate covered cherries with rose scented baths and a glass of bubbly.  My romance is living with the love of my life, every day.


Digital vs. Print

and Why I’m Still in Love with Paperback

 

In this digital age, I thought it’d be fun to compare e-books and print books.  What do you think?  What is your favorite way to read?

Top 5 Reasons I’m Still in Love with Paperback:

1.  I like the feel of it in my hands, the crisp sound as I turn the page.

2.  It’s easier to read in the bathtub and it’ll dry if I drop it.

3.  It doesn’t have a lot of other buttons on it to distract me.

4.  The battery doesn’t die as soon as I’ve been drawn into a story.

5.  It’s easier to finish one story before I start another.

Top 5 Reasons I Love My E-books:

1.  Downloading a new book to read is almost instantaneous.

2.  It takes up less space and is less clutter.

3.  It’s easy to take with me anywhere I go.

4.  I have several books I can read at once.

5.  There are more options of stories to read that are only produced digitally and it’s easier to discover a new author.


Guitar…Drums…

(Anyone recognize where that comes from?)

I grew up around music but unfortunately never learned to play anything other than the Clarinet I played in school.  Last year, I spent three months on teaching myself guitar, only to let something get in my way and I never went back to it.

Until now.

I’ve always been infatuated with guitar and drums and keyboard, but deep in my heart I know I’ll never be that great at it.  But you know what?  It doesn’t matter.  Because I’m the only one who is going to hear myself play (well, my husband does sometimes when I’m practicing at home, but he doesn’t care how awful I sound).

Neither does my cat.

Even if I can only get 15 minutes of playing in a day, I love every moment of those 15 minutes as I attempt to learn a new chord or a new beat pattern on the drum.  I have so many hobbies at times I stop doing them because I can’t seem to be able to pick one, so I end up self-sabotaging myself and doing nothing at the fear I’ll never be good.  But even if I’ll never be able to play a song completely, I’m having a blast, learning something new, and using my creativity (which to me is more than just words or colors on a page or a wreath on your door).

Hopefully this time, I’ll stick to it.

What have you always wanted to learn but never took the time to try?  What is stopping you?


Travel Brochures

I haven’t traveled to many places, but I am obsessed with maps, with travel guides, with city brochures.  I’ve ordered a brochure from all fifty states and keep them in two drawers of a spare dresser in my craft room.

Creating characters and the places they live has always been my favorite part of writing.

Years ago I become interested in “altered books” and came up with the idea of using my travel guides (to places I might never have a chance to visit) and create a fun altered book.  So I found an older book to use and researched when all fifty states became a state.  I got the dates and put tabs on pages so the states could be in order of when they became a state.

I started with Tennessee.  Something about that travel guide drew me in, so I created a 2-page spread of Tennessee, a place I’ve only driven through twice (on a round-trip journey to Washington, D.C.) but a place I hadn’t been through before I made the spread.

Years passed.  I kept thinking of the book and kept thinking how I’d like to get back into doing it, but writing got in the way as had other real-life responsibilities.  Recently, I started reading Julia Cameron’s The Artist Way again and realized I need to create artist dates for myself, and some of those artist dates can be taking the time for my creativity again and creating my state book.

My first artist date was doing just that.  I created a spread of Alaska.  It didn’t take long, I had a blast doing it, and I’m enthused about creating more pages so I can finish all the states.

Here’s my recent page:


Do you like to be profiled?

I am a romance author.  I am a romance reader.  I get profiled a lot.  I see that look that comes across their face as soon as I tell ‘em what I write or as soon as a coworker sees me eating lunch in the kitchen with a romance novel in hand.

Romance novels have always had somewhat of a false perception, yet they are still arguably the best selling stories in America (and probably beyond, but I haven’t done my research outside of America.  Anyone know?)

Profiling shouldn’t bother me.  After all, America profiles for markets, and it’s probably right a lot of times.  But it can also be very very wrong, which is where I think people like me (who fits in no true profile) suffer.  Sometimes, America is trying to feed us what it thinks we want when in reality it isn’t what we want at all. Don’t you think?  Or is it just me?

According to the RWA, I fit into this profile:

I go on diets (I eat healthy b/c it’s important but it isn’t a diet)

I love television talk shows like Oprah (no, even if I was home during the day)

I love drama shows, like soap operas (does Dexter count?)

I probably scrapbook (yep, used to anyway)

I love to garden (I do love to garden!)

I watch American Idol (nope, sorry)

Dancing with the Stars (never once)

I’m a parent (another no)

I do yoga (yes, actually, but none of the crazy yoga stuff where I have to put my leg behind my head or stand on my head)

Deal with stress (isn’t that why I read?)

And I deal with elderly parents (not yet, but hope I have an opportunity to.  After all, losing your mom at a young age makes you appreciate things like that.)

So I fit in roughly about 2 or 3 of those.  Dexter is about the only show I do watch, besides movies, but that’s because I choose to work on my story or garden or yoga…

Now, if I was a Trekkie (which I’m not), I might:

Play videogames (does Rockband count?)

Love comics (I don’t love ‘em, but I don’t hate ‘em)

Cult movies (as long as it’s a good movie)

X-Men and Star-Wars (love ‘em both)

What do you think?  Do you have a certain profile you fit into?


New Year’s Writing

My new year starts about three weeks after the New Year.  Since my birthday is January 20, I use the first three weeks to ease into the New Year and think on resolutions (if I make any).  I don’t like to call them resolutions because I have changing goals throughout the year.

It took me those three weeks to figure out what I wanted to do, and at first I thumbed my nose at any suggestions.  I signed up for a writer’s class at www.writeruniv.com and at first felt resentment that my assignment was to name 5 writing priorities and 3 things to say no to.  At that time, I still wasn’t sure I was ready to start writing again.

Then, something happened.  What can I say, I can’t describe it, but it was a writer’s prompt that led me back into the joy of writing.  That along with the class and other realizations that I write because I love it, not because I’m seeking publication.  I made a commitment to focus on those writer’s prompts for the sheer joy of it and not pursue publication on them, but also to get back to my story that I am pursuing and start submitting again.  And, of course, one of those priorities is social marketing, because a writer has to get out there and meet other people.

So I’m choosing to share my 5 writing priorities online to keep me focused.

1. Submit my manuscript to agents and publishers.

2. Edit my 2nd manuscript and then edit my 3rd in the series so I can start submitting those.

3. Continue to freewrite for the joy and the experience.

4. Find a nearby conference and go.

5. Learn more about social marketing and start blogging.

The three things I will say no to are:

1. Say no to my inner critic. He is not allowed to accompany me unless I need him for editing.

2. Sleeping late.

3. Anything that gets in the way of my daily writing.


Queries and Email Woes

It never fails: I check my query to make sure it looks good a few dozen times before I hit send and yet once I send it and look at it through the sent folder, the format is all messed up.  I’ve had this problem with both yahoo and hotmail accounts, and I’m afraid it makes me look…well, stupid.  How can any publisher or agent take me seriously if my formatting is messed up?

And why in the world does it look okay on my page but all messed up once I send it and open it under the sent folder?  Even when I open my formatting tab, it shows everything as it should be, but it sure looks messed up once I send it.

Can anyone explain those mysteries to me?


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